Why is judgement irrelevant? ……..
Everyone deals with the fear of judgment at some level. It makes no sense that we give other people this much power over how we feel about ourselves, but we often do.
*This happens to you more when you aren’t sure who you are. If you worry about what others think of you, you may need to clearly define who you are and what affects your value, once and for all. Clearly defining these two things will help you to take your power back.
*Your value is infinite and absolute (unchangeable) because you are a one-of-a-kind, irreplaceable human soul. I believe nothing you do, nothing anyone else says, thinks or does to you, and no situation in your life, can change your value. You are the same no matter what.
*You must know and believe you are as bulletproof as Superman. Offenses, insults and judgments can just bounce off, if you experience them that way. No one can hurt you without your permission.
*You are (literally) your love for yourself, people and life, and your love is the source of your value. That’s why you can’t lose who you are. If you would focus on being the love everywhere you go, the fear of judgment would stop, because you can’t do fear and love at the same time.
*The truth is, what others think of you is irrelevant. , “Judgment and fear will never stop, but they don’t actually do anything either.” What other people think of you doesn’t change you or affect your value at all. Their opinion doesn’t mean anything. You are the same you no matter what they think. Remind yourself of this often.
* Instead of resisting these feelings, or beating yourself up for having them, step back and let yourself really experience them. Fear and judgment are an interesting thing to experience. If you step back and pay attention, you will see they can’t hurt you. They aren’t even real. You have the power to replace these fears with truth.
* Choose to focus on giving love and validation to others when you feel fear. There is no faster way to escape your fear than choosing to focus on someone else. If you want to discover the true depth of your love, focus on loving, the very person that is judging you. This is not easy to do — but you can do it.
Mindfullness (our own judgments)
It’s a big deal to start noticing your own judging mind. It’s a big deal to start realizing the way we suffer because of judging. It’s one of those things that, once you start to see, you won’t un-see. Once you start to note judgment and then practice shooing judging away, you begin practicing non-judgment. The real glory of this is that we don’t realize, as we judge, that we are taking on a burden; the burden of reducing and judging people, places and things. When we practice non-judgment, we unburden ourselves from needless, self-created suffering.
Notice your judging thoughts, breathe them away and accept the people, places and things in our midst and lives unconditionally, as they are. Experience and make a practice of the unburdened openness of a non-judging mind. Stay present in the now.